Being a Winner

If there is something I’ve learnt in life, is that, to be a winner, you have to live like one. You’ll never win if you are lazy, inconsistent, undisciplined and anything else associated with bad living. You have to live successful even when you don’t see it. Anyway, it is good to learn. If you don’t learn anything, blame yourself. There are so many life teachings.

Do not compare yourself to anyone. You do not know their journey. I do not say this lightly. I know people only see the face value. They have no idea what goes on out of view. Faith or no faith, there are rules to winning the game. No wonder the bible compares the ant to human beings. There is a good point there. There is also a point in being varied. You cannot win by trying to be another Zuckerberg. I told you to not compare, remember? You don’t know how he lives anyway. He’s very private. I like that.

By saying “compare”, I’m not saying you let your life live itself without your input. I’m saying you adopt the patterns seen in successful people. Many successful people not just one.

Do not shake off the attraction. Many people will try to stick with you as you climb the ladder. Let them. You need people in your life. You cannot be “a one hit wonder” by yourself. Let people succeed and you will too. Being mean will not help you. No!!

Most times, people shake off the attraction. This is just wrong. The trick here is that nobody will outlast you with discipline. It’s what makes people famous and known. By the way, most stars are not good people, but because they have what it takes to make it, they become stars.

I’m not telling you to be one. I am telling you not to be poor. It is never a turn on. Not really. Be good at something and stick there. Do not be lied to by people who want to bring you down. By the way know that to every action, there is a reaction. You will face serious challenges depending with your goals.

Never give up!

I have a friend with brilliant ideas. You can ignore that person, but that person is one important person. Next time I will say it. I guess it never occurred to me to say it. I should.

Follow your brilliant ideas through and no one will see you. Too bad I cannot say that in person. I’ll be the bad person and I just wanted to help. Sometimes, you keep things to yourself because you don’t want to come off as a know it all.

But good ideas are never easily hidden. Remember Kodak and printing photos? Apparently, they had the idea first and they turned it down. They soon went out of business. By the way, you may think I’m all about the dollar. Not really. But lack when there are so many opportunities is inexcusable. The basics are a must. I need to say something. The problem here is that people think what they want and you cannot control it. I won’t be quiet because of your thoughts. Not really.

Anyway, I do not want to be cliché. Not really. It is boring and boring and boring!!! It is pathetic trying to be something you’re not. It is easy and flawless being you. Again, let people talk.

Oh, they’ll talk. Do not pay attention. Be immune. Keep quiet if you can. Let people feel like they are in charge. It will end up well with you. And the same people will wonder at your success!!!

Be passionate. Do what you are good at. Don’t do what others think it is good for you. I happen to love lawsuits and their solutions. Someone told me to be a lawyer. I was so confused. Now I know what I want. It is not law.

He meant well and I can make it seriously. But I wanted something else. I don’t regret my decision. If you regret yours, change it if you can. If you can’t, tell your kids not to copy that. Don’t compare!!! A lot of times people do compare themselves to others. Your eyes should be on the goal not on other people.

Challenges. This should be a post by itself. The trick is to never fear any challenge. Big as it looks, don't fear.

That reminds me of me. I have noticed that with myself. I always make it (despite the challenges) where I am passionate. Things that bore me don’t make me successful in what I do. They just bog me down.

But remember you have to let people be people. Don’t bother with people who can’t help you. Preserve your energy for big things and you will become something that can’t be ignored.

By the way forgive. Let it go. It will just bog you down for no good reason. But never ignore the lessons. Forgiving is not trusting. You just let it go, but you know something about something.

As Joel Osteen puts it, there will be times when you’ll get angry. Many times. Choose to be the bigger person. It does not go unrewarded. Let small minds be just that, small. Let it go. But let people know what you like. If they choose to ignore your interests, why live with them? What are you doing there?

People who value you will mind you. People who don’t, won’t. Don’t be lied to that care is painful. Not really.

The Swahili say: akufukuzaye hakwambii toka (Translation: No one who chases you away from them tells you to go) they’ll just annoy you with gross habits. I am talking of new gross habits. Old gross habits should tell you that you are living with a broken toy. Too bad you have to realize that for yourself. Nobody will tell you.

If someone tells you to leave. Leave. Act foolish. Don’t argue. After all, you walked away with your life. But make no mistake. That person is not your friend. But if you were told to leave because you never heeded instruction, that is on you. Remember, if you don’t own it, you have no say in it. That’s the truth. Beggars are not choosers.

I’m not talking about marriage, but speaking of marriage, if your spouse can be that mean, be very careful. That’s a person, not for you. You are living on borrowed time.

One thing though, you will be successful where people love and respect you. Go where you are celebrated not tolerated.