Physical Attraction vs. Mental Attraction

I have always known that physical attraction will be the downfall of the human male species. Women can adapt. They always have, anyway.  Of course they adapt while making a serious fuss! I would too, but I guess I’ll remain neutral here. Weigh both sides and go to the winning side. That’s my style.  

Mental attraction on the other hand is powerful and it is what sets aside couples who are meant to be and those who got together because of other things (feel free to substitute “other things” with your words of choice).

Now, I am looking for a mental partner and I won’t settle for anything less! Seriously, I’d rather be single my whole life than hook up with looks! I can’t deal with the embarrassment of correcting someone every time!

Ever wondered why that guy cheated on you? Well, let me put your mind to rest today. Physical attraction! If you don’t believe me, ask Helen of Troy. She may be dead, but her actions stir souls to this day.

Women do crazy things to the views held by this world. I want to believe I am among this group. Crazy defines me and I love it!

So next time you want to shack up, consider the intelligence. If it is not compatible, walking away will save you from heartache. True story. Don’t compromise. Your soul mate is out there wondering why you have taken so long!

Yes, love is so beautiful. You can’t even begin to explain it! Well, guess what? Even most divorces and those in bad marriages started that way. They all say that love was beautiful. They couldn’t help it. They tied the knot which tied them together and finally killed whatever love they thought they had.

Love is very tricky! But, because you think you understand it, go ahead. Don’t say you weren’t warned. Unless, of course, you like short relationships. I mean, you do not intend to ever marry or get married. Or maybe you like divorces and separations, I don’t know …

People have given up on love because of its complexity! But, then again, it is so simple!

Why do you think so many people today don’t believe in love? They have suffered heartbreaks or they know a story about someone who has been through one. They chose not to believe in it. Unfortunately, love doesn’t care whether you believe in it or not.

Cupid! That small man is conniving! He’s also bitter and doesn’t want to see you succeed where he hasn’t. Follow him at your own risk!

Personally, that’s a guy I can shoot on sight! If he exists, anyway. I doubt he does! Otherwise, what does he eat? Where does he sleep? So many things about him don’t make sense!

By the way, mental attraction will always come with physical attraction. It is hard to separate the two especially when mental attraction rules. If the attraction is purely physical, it won’t last. Ask most celebrities!

So go ahead and date but be sure to check intelligence and whether it attracts you or not. If it is physical, only you will have to deal with a broken heart. Oh, and that other somebody who dated you may also feel a pinch in losing you! But some people have deserts in place of “hearts”. That should be the eighth wonder!

Mental attraction can drive you crazy. Physical attraction is so replaceable I don’t know why I am talking about it. That’s why you will notice there are so many pretty ladies and so many handsome men. Unfortunately, most handsome men are gay! The women go back and forth. I wouldn’t know if men feel the pain of having so many untouchable hot women. I should ask someone about it. Don’t tell me about orgies and whatever “somes” … That is sick parading as normal, creepy, distasteful and stupid.

It is stupid because the repercussions send ripples down generations. The origin of this cannot know what happy means. No wonder juvenile delinquents are so many. Ask about their histories. You will be surprised! Unfortunately, these children didn’t choose this life!

What irony! Physical attraction vs. mental attraction! People really get heartbroken here! If you know how to decide, good for you! If you are undecided, that’s your problem to solve. I can’t help you. No one can, even if they would like to.

So when I hear about divorces, broken marriages, separations e.t.c. And both parties don’t look like they should be fighting, I know the union was unreal. By the way, most divorcees look good! I’m yet to see an ugly divorcee.

That reminds me;

Once, I was in a supermarket when a couple went to the cashier to pay. The lady was pretty. The guy was not what the lady wanted (or so it seemed to me).  Maybe, I was wrong then and I am now. But, you know why I concluded so? The actions! If you ask me, that guy looked like a cross between a giraffe and something else (probably, a warthog)! No offense. It is supposed to mean tall plus not so good looking when this worlds SI unit is used.

The lady was embarrassed by him everywhere and at all times, but, since he paid, he was not a reject to her.

(Forgive the misspelling ...! I also hate it!)

 

Such situations make you reflect. People notice whatever you want to hide. They are never stupid. But, those people are strangers, so they don’t matter. But, actions do. At least remember that.

I don’t know what went down in that relationship, but I wouldn’t want to be grouped with them!

I honestly felt embarrassed for them.

Why not find someone who is not embarrassed by you? Also, get someone who doesn’t embarrass you.

So anyone who really is into you will show you. You will just know if the love is mental or physical. Pay attention! If you don’t connect and you are in the relationship for certain pluses (finances, beauty, e.t.c.) then that marriage won’t last. I’m not jinxing it, just utilizing candor.

I’m not saying that you marry a pauper, or someone with no looks because finances and beauty can kill a union, rather I am saying that you get into a relationship because you are a better you and you feel connected to this person. Otherwise, we will learn from you. Thanks, in advance!

If not, man, you are joking! Anyway, it is your life so be the joke you want to be! That will be on you. Talk about choice! Another name would be free will. Feel free to create a joke. The joke will be so bad, hurt so many people and backfire on your ass!

Anyway, enough with the attractions.

So, where does your relationship lie among the two categories?

By the way, don’t break up because of my words. Enjoy your relationship. Feel happy to be in it. It is a privilege and an honor. Don’t ever take it for granted.

But, remember, there is a time for everything. 

There is a time to be real ...