Who Killed Chivalry and its female version? …

Ever had that friend who for reasons known to the heavens becomes a real pain every once in a while? The gossiping in bad taste, always seeing people in bad light and trying to distort the truth? A cycle of madness maybe? Maybe …

I have realized that you need to understand people in order to live with them. That is why you cannot get along with everyone every time. And it is very okay. No need to kill yourself with worry. You wonder what happens to people occasionally. Learn the weaknesses and faults of people and avoid pitfalls.  See whether you can cope, ignore or walk away. Don’t try to reason it out. You will die of mind cancer. In fact, the weakness should only serve to make you a better person. I think studying people is just interesting …

You make someone insecure so she lashes out with the occasional attack on you that you have no control over just to console her dear self. When you see someone want to make you feel inferior, understand. The person has a need to feel superior because to her, you are what she dreams to become or it’s out of pure malice … whether that person admits it or not is irrelevant. It’s pure psychology. Stay far from such people. They are like clouds, when they go away, it’s a bright day.

The attack on how you look shows insecurity in someone. Maybe that person has issues with her body and she shows it through attacking yours. I have seen it with ladies especially. Men just live. They don’t care. If you find one that does, he’s so gay! If you ever hear a guy point out that his arms are huge, run! That’s a girl thing. Men will go to tone something in the gym and grow some abs. Maybe. But bicker? No no! Men are problem solvers not “another version of ladies”. Maybe that is why many ladies like male friends more. No issues.
Anyway, don’t let someone get away with some statements if you value yourself but be wise too and know when to just let it go and let those people stew in their insecurities. It also feels good to ignore petty people.

One time I blasted a friend of mine for attacking my boobs. You know those bad comments that people make without realizing they might hurt your feelings. But the article is not about her lest you jump into your own sad conclusions. She’s a darling. I am trying to emphasize a point.

I realize now that I was sensitive then, perhaps very sensitive. I am no longer that sensitive. That part of me died. And I’m happy it did because it used to make life difficult for me. Nowadays I am care free and if I care about what you just blurted in bad taste, I will put you in your place. Most times, I say what is on my mind. A girl gotta defend herself from those would be tasteless jokes. But if there is a school for sensitivity, I think it would be of help to people who are a little too sensitive for life. Oh! There is! The school is called meditation I think. Its helped me and I think you can benefit too.

So, what happened to being gentlemen and ladies anywhere not just in the malls? I guess that one reason I hate market places. I find people there uncivilized and uncouth. People with little respect for grace and poise and all those nice things that go with a civilized society. You may think its pretense. Well, for some it is while to others, a way of life. But you can always tell a poser from the real thing. And we are not talking about VIP parties and social functions here. Get this. It’s about carrying yourself like a respectable human being despite your social level. Allow me to say this because it’s obvious money got into people’s heads and there is nothing you can do about that! Thank God for educated business people. They really define the difference. Well, most not all ... some just got educated by luck because education was getting into the brain through one ear and out the other one. I think the little education got trapped somewhere between the two ears!

I don’t know who told people that some things belong to a certain class. I’ve never heard of anyone buying grace. Poise too. So it’s not about money really. On the contrary! I think people just don’t want to be responsible and considerate. Being polite, treating people with respect and minding your own business is the least you could do in a world with 7 billion people.  And don’t stare too. I am trying to show you why I’d rather pay more for a service if I can afford it at a place with friendly ambiance, than go haggle the same in a place full of people who have no idea what chivalry is so that I save. I do not save at the expense of getting insulted.  And I am not talking of pride. There is a difference please.

Call it what you want. My motive tells it all. The era of pleasing people in my life died and however harshly you want to judge me, I am trying to find a place in life where I fit with people who understand where I am coming from. If you do not understand me, then I guess you do not fit in my world. But this is not to say we won’t interact. It’s just that we may never see a situation in the same way. And agreeing to disagree is fine with me.

This is very okay. There are many ways of seeing a situation. It just depends with your philosophical bend and maybe, just maybe I happen not to subscribe to the same school of thought …